Monday, April 29, 2013

Obtaining Instant Inner Peace

The most effective way to obtain inner peace is to meditate, to be still, to sit in the silence and let the voice of your higher power seep within you. Meditation is a process of quieting the mind but that’s not always a simple task. Luckily, it doesn’t matter if you successfully push all those thoughts away or not. Even the act of trying is effective and the benefits of meditation are compounded with each session.

Sometimes life can throw us a curveball at a time when isn’t convenient to meditate. You may be at work, a party, driving, etc. Here are a few tips for tapping back into your inner peace during times like these.
  • Say “So what!” So what? What’s the big deal? How important is this in the grand scheme of things anyway?

  • Remember that everyone is operating from their own agenda. What people say and do is more about them than it is about you.

  • Making people happy can be fun but you were not put here to please people. That is not your primary purpose. And the same holds true for them. Keep that in mind next time someone upsets you or is upset with you.

  • View the situation as an observer. If you can step back and view the situation as a third person, as an observer as opposed to a participant, how would it change what you see?

  • Take responsibility but never blame. Blaming gives away your control. You can get an immediate sense of relief by taking responsibility and saying things like, “Okay, I walked into that.” or “I didn’t see that coming. How can I learn from this?”

These tips can be extremely helpful but remember, meditating regularly is the best means for obtaining long-lasting inner peace.

Monday, April 22, 2013

How to Live Life on Purpose

Too often people find themselves caught up in the everyday routine of life. They simply go through the motions letting life slip by unfulfilled. But it is possible and far more rewarding to live with purpose! Here are a few steps that will help you live life on purpose.

  • Know What You Really Want – The most important step is knowing what it is that you really want. It’s impossible to live on purpose without a sense of direction.
  • Be Passionate – Live every day with passion, drive, determination, and perseverance!
  • Be Positive – Don’t allow minor setbacks get you down. They happen. Take them in stride.
  • Be Appreciative – Take time to acknowledge and appreciate even the small things.
  • Connect with People – This is where opportunities show up.
  • Take Responsibility – Don’t blame others for the happenings in your life. Accept that you have no control over others but you have total control over YOU!
  • Choose Your Emotional Response – Choose how you respond to events and circumstances. Learn to turn problems into opportunities.
  • Be Content with Where You Are – Be determined and persistent, but don’t push. Instead, go with the flow.
Everyone has a purpose. Everyone! If you’re not sure what your purpose is, contact me. I can help.

Make a decision to live life on purpose!

Monday, April 15, 2013

How to Effectively Change Your Past

Past events, whether viewed as good or bad, a triumph or a tragedy make up who we are and how we respond to life. Yet some choose to continually suffer from their past feeling betrayed, bitter, angry and even guilty. These people feel a total loss of control over their lives and will tell anyone who’s listening, “I can’t change the past.” While it is true that past events can’t be changed, there is something you can change. You can change the way you think about the past.

By the time I reached my mid-twenties I realized that the dysfunctional household I grew up in was more the norm than the exception. Angry, fighting parents who were incapable of uttering the word “love” was the standard in our household. It was in my thirties that I began to recognize my parents as people. People who were simply doing the best they could during difficult times, people who couldn’t say “I love you” because it had never been said to them.

Once this shift in my “view of the past” occurred, I was able to put it to rest and move on with my life in a positive direction. Everyone has the power to do this.

While there are many, many horrible things that happen to people, there is nothing that can’t be cured with love, understanding, and forgiveness.  It’s not always easy but it always works!

The unhappiness that you may feel over past events is entirely a creation of your mind and the way you choose to think about your past. We may not have control over many things in this world but the one thing you will always have control over are your thoughts.
Change your thoughts and you change your world. —Norman Vincent Peale

Monday, April 8, 2013

Empowering Your Health & Wellness

Yesterday I received an urgent message from a friend. Her 30+-year-old daughter was in for a regular OB-GYN visit when they discovered her blood pressure was an alarming 176/116.

According to the American Heart Association, blood pressure of 180 systolic (top number) or 120 diastolic (bottom number) constitutes a “Hypertensive Urgency” and the dangers include stroke, loss of consciousness, memory loss, heart attack, damage to the eyes and kidneys, loss of kidney function, aortic dissection, angina, pulmonary edema, and seizures.  All very serious conditions for a young working professional, wife and mother of two.

While the patient’s numbers weren’t quite at 180/120, they were frighteningly close. She was treated in the emergency room by a physician's assistant who performed a semi-thorough evaluation and indicated that the patient was stressed-out. The PA advised my friend’s daughter to “just chill out.”  Chill out? Seriously?  And exactly how does someone with dangerously high blood pressure, sitting in an emergency room with a husband who’s away on business, two small children at home and a corporate job waiting on her “just chill out”?

The questions this blog addresses are:
  • When and how do you stand up and take control of your medical affairs?

  • What do you do when you receive less than satisfactory service from a medical professional?

I have devoted a portion of my forthcoming book, Healing Broken Wings on how to deal with doctors and other medical professionals but for now, I will provide a few tips that you can use right now.
  1. Know who you are speaking to.
  2. Don’t be afraid to ask the medical professional who they are, namely their status (doctor, physician’s assistant, nurse practitioner, etc) and how long they have been practicing.
  3. Ask them about their experience with your particular problem.
  4. Don’t settle for vague answers such as “all doctors are trained in this area.”
  5. If you are not comfortable with the answers you receive, ask for someone else. For example, in this case, I would have wanted to see a doctor, not a PA.
  6. Follow your gut.  If it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.  This is probably the most important tip I can give you.
  7. Never follow through with a treatment or medication that you are not completely comfortable with.  Do your own research.
  8. Get a second opinion or even a third opinion.  Don’t stop until you are satisfied and comfortable with the answers you receive.

Quite simply, your health is your responsibility and every decision is under your control.  As a patient, you are 100% responsible for your choices in treatments, therapies and even the medications you take unless you are unconscious.  

Part of your job as a patient is to educate yourself. Your health care is probably the most important service you will ever buy yet it is the area where people ask the fewest questions.